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and I had a great time playing at the play ground with Greta Jo.
I have special one on one time with each of my daughters, and
it's been a treasure.
Greta Jo, just three years old, loves going to the park to play. There are many parks in Louisville from which I could and do choose. Today, I chose one with three portals and a few more nearby. Play may mean different things for me and my little one and it no less fun!
Greta Jo is the sort of kid who watches, observers, and gains confidence after a couple of tries. I see her face her fears. It's not the she's fearful, it's that she fears less and less.
Ever since I was a little kid, I had a thin shell that cracked under pressure for a variety of larger than life to a kid reasons. I've been candid about some of them in earlier posts here, but let it suffice, I had good reason to be scared and angry. Some are defined by these moments, forever stuck in the reaction of fight or flight. Through my candor and awareness, I try to keep perspective when these emotions pop up.
Emotions aren't rational. If they were, we human critters would be much better at getting along. What I hope to impart on the girls isn't that courage is bluster and bravado, but knowing yourself and your skills enough that when fear shows up, it has less say in how you choose to act. Courage is being afraid, and acting wisely, not in a mindless reaction of aggression and defensiveness. This is true whether climbing a jungle gym and going down the big kid slides, or tackling a big project at work covering something you've never done. Greta Jo already has her problem solving, she observes, figures it out, and then goes ahead and tries. She may have been on this earth for just a few years, but that little girl has living big down already.